Awww, Bebe, I’m sorry for all the pain and challenges in your family. You’re such a blessing to your sister. A shame her daughter won’t accept her mother’s decision.

I can say that when I had my injury and surgery last year and was suddenly forced to be in hospital, that was all bad enough but I was stuck in a room with an 88-year-old woman whose family didn’t want granny to be alone at all. So there were people in the room talking talking talking from morning till evening. Plus she had various therapies etc. going on with professionals coming in constantly.

I was in the back of the room by the window, not even a proper bed space but they made room. I was in plain view of the nurses station right outside the door. Old lady wanted the door open 24/7 because she didn’t want to miss anything and liked hearing people pass (they couldn’t see her so I was the one with privacy violated).

I was so exhausted. No sleep from my own pain and issues, plus both of us has nurses in with meds etc at night.

And with the nurses station by our door, we heard the call alarms going off constantly, loud horrible buzzing every time a patient pressed the call button.


It was horrible and I ached to go home. They wanted me to go to rehab until I could care for myself (whenever they’d have found a bed) but i HAD to get home. Didn’t want more of the same at rehab. No rest! No privacy. No TV.

It was tough at home but a friend helped on Saturdays and I had groceries delivered. Far better than in hospital.
How can you ever get well with no rest??

However, I also understand that in your case, your sister doesn’t have easy help and it’s hard for you to do much being a bit far away. Tough all around!

I hope things settle soon and that your sister and her daughter can repair that relationship. Best for all concerned. Thank you for sharing.