I’ve had a bunch of those whirlwind, romantic, “fall head over heels immediately” relationships. They’re delicious and intoxicating. But in a few cases I married them right away while still in that place and too late discovered the other things you mentioned, being controlling or disrespectful etc. Or being abusive…

Their early proposals and my eager acceptances were so dysfunctional but I couldn’t — or rather, wouldn’t — see it until it was too late.

I hope you do find that beautiful romance you’re seeking, one that is healthy and balanced and kind. And in the meantime, your approach is great. I’m glad I finally learned to “take it slow” when meeting someone. And the other important piece was to observe and acknowledge those red flags I used to ignore. That analytical part of you will help keep you safe. I’m glad you’ve got that ability!

Thanks for sharing this 💖