Oh, my...I've never heard a man even mention the concept of "getting taken into her body." As a woman, I have spoken about this idea, saying that this is why women take sex so much more seriously than men (generalising for both here). I thought this because of what you wrote above - about women needing to feel loved to have sex, and men needing sex to feel loved.

Just because I've never heard a man mention that most intimate concept of being taken into a woman's body doesn't mean none of them has ever thought about it, but to be honest, it just didn't occur to me that a man might think that way.

Just as I've never heard it mentioned or suggested that men see it as "a sense of peace and homecoming." Wow...That is so beautiful and weirdly, so unexpected and I'm not sure why. Not that I think men wouldn't or couldn't feel that way. I guess I'm just surprised at myself for never really looking at this (love/sex - sex/love thing) in quite this way. Thank you for opening that door for me.

Despite countless conversations with men about sex in my life (and having been married six times...the subject came up a lot...), I am stunned that not one of those men ever said anything at all like what you've written here.

There have been many times, though, that I've thought of the awfulness that boys/men must endure, having to make those first moves, fearing rejection. I wouldn't want to be on that side of the equation, just as much as I don't like being on THIS side where I'm (old-fashioned and) waiting for "him" to make that first move, notice me and show interest, ask for my number etc. Then waiting for the call...that sometimes never comes.

Thank you for this brilliant, insightful article. You've given me so much to think about!