Thanks so much for reading this, Johnny, and for your beautiful message. Yes, essentially it's what you said - but ... (guess what?) I will be writing a piece that helps with 'letting go' as well. I did sort of address it in this piece, about what to do when those thoughts come up, but I'll write something with more detail about it (she says, looking at the nearly 300 drafts that are waiting, LOL!) Don't worry, I'm not finishing all of those before I get to this one!