Thanks so much for sharing this, Toya. I'm so sorry you had this experience and that your relationship has now shifted because of it. But I do believe you were right to react as you did, and it was a show of emotional maturity that you rang in the morning to clarify things from your side.

It's good that she apologised and seemed to appreciate how appalling her behaviour had been - but yeah ... wonder why she hadn't called. Perhaps had been working up the courage? Maybe thought you wouldn't pick up? But still - she ought to have done it.

I've said plenty of words I wish I hadn't in years gone by, most often in letters to people who had said or done something hurtful and I didn't know how to just SAY IT. Mostly they were letters to my mother, who was so abusive while I was growing up and continued to be insulting and hurtful until she died when I was well into adulthood.

There have been other words to other people, too ... really wish I could take them back but of course, I cannot. At least I finally learned my lesson.

Thanks so much for sharing this important story, Toya. I appreciate it - and you! 💜💜💜