Yeah...thought you might appreciate that choice of words... And for what it's worth - (I always hesitate to say this part, not knowing people's beliefs) - I have been communicating with spirits since I was a kid. I can promise you that your brother is still very much with you and watching what's happening in your life. So although I appreciate the sentiment of wanting to grab a chair and sit with him at the cemetery, he's already well aware of the things you think and say about him, the "talking to him" thoughts you have, etc. You don't need to be at the cemetery for him to know you miss him, you think of him, you want to talk to him. He's always close by.
I hope you don't mind me sharing that. I never wanted this ability; it was terrifying in the early years. Over time, it got stronger without my working at it or wanting it.
I ended up doing psychic phone-ins every month or so on the BBC for about 5 years, plus worked as a medium from the stage, connecting audience members with loved ones in spirit. I was always careful to do "clean readings" not wanting any information from people so they couldn't accuse me of being a fraud - in case that info helps.
Just want you to know your brother is still with you.