You're not being a problem at all! I'm sure it's my explaining that sucks.

I double-checked to be sure you've been added as a writer (in case I'd forgotten to hit 'save' after adding you). Your name is definitely there. But I deleted you and re-added you, as there have been times on HHH I've had to do this because for some reason, the pub didn't show up on a writer's list. Yay, Medium glitchiness!

I just took a look at one of my drafts so I can try to more accurately walk you through the submission process.

The three dots I was talking about are to the RIGHT of the big green "Publish" button on your draft.

"Add to publication" should be the first option, right above "share draft link."

As you haven't joined other pubs (yet), when you choose "Add to publication" you should only see "The Afterlife". You would click in the little circle beside it, then "Select and continue" at the bottom.

The green "Publish" button turns into "Submit" - you click on that, and the rest should be self-explanatory.

If you still don't see "Add to publication" above "share draft link", let me know and I'll delete and re-add you again. Once I had to do this four times before a writer saw HHH on her list!