Yup, learned this lesson the very hard way. And it's why I'm not one to leap into bed at the drop of the hat. Been there, done that way back when I was younger and thought that what was I "had to do" because it was "expected" - but it never served me well.

Now - there needs to be a solid relationship and basis of trust, friendship and respect before I'd consider it. Sex is a great way to mask real issues.

I wrote an article about this for HuffPost several years ago and it's another one you'll soon see on my profile, too! Thanks so much for writing this. Nice to see this from a man's perspective; definitely proves the point that not all men are "only interested in one thing."